Us and acceptance

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Acceptance is something we all look for. We want to be accepted by the people around us and the wider community as a whole. We want people to know us and acknowledge our existence and perceive us as people who are and can do something. We always say we feel left out and not included by others so we look for their acceptance so we can see that we are something. Why do we search for acceptance and what happens to us when go on the search for acceptance?
Firstly, as people we search for acceptance because we feel we are noticed and people will acknowledge what we do and who we are. Our aim is for people to acknowledge us as a person who is a person who is alive in this world and is fully capable of doing the things they want and living up to our potential. We feel abandoned and unwanted if we are not noticed and what we do not considered. This make us search for acceptance because we do not want to be left out and this plays a toll on us and our personality.

When we want to be acknowledged we know that we have to talk, walk and behave in a particular way. We behave and change ourselves according to the way the people we want to look like function. This plays a massive toll on us as we have to change and conceal our true self and entire being to fit into the group we want to be part of. We have to hate what we once loved and love what we once hated in order to fit in. Our lifestyle changes to fit in with them and we adapt habits and characteristics we do not want to have or hated to be noticed. We do not have a say in who we have to be, it is decided by those we want to join and we have to give to their style and way of living, otherwise they reject us. We do not get acceptance if we do not assimilate to their ways and since we want acknowledgement, we do.


Acceptance is fine if it by people who do not require you to change who you are. People who really want to know you will not force you to change the slightest bit of you but will embrace you and who you are. They want to get to know the real you and not something you are not. That is why we have to align ourselves with people who want us to be us and will not force us to change our personality. If a person will only acknowledge and accept you after you change, then they are not true to you and see the real you as a problem to them. True friends will accept you regardless of your flaws and perfections, they want to know you and not a fake you that you are not. That is why it is very vital for us to align with such people because changing who we are for acceptance will only affect us because we will lose who we are and suffer from a loss of personality. That is why we must side with people who will accept you as you.   

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