The World we live in

          Embrace what you can do As people we believe that we can accomplish everything we set our mind to. It is nice to think positive but this is not entirely true. We may do a lot of things but we will not accomplish all that we want to do, somethings are things we just can’t do even if we put every effort into it. We are human and we have a limit to our capacity, we are good at certain things and we are not at others.  Embrace what you can do over what you can’t do because no matter how much you try to go beyond that limit you can’t do it. That is why it is important to be proud at your level of achievement and hold on to it. Sometimes there are things we can achieve but are too lazy or are bothered to do, then is the time where you have to get up and put effort. The reason why we must embrace our hard-work and understand our limits is because if we do not, we will start to look at others and begin to question why I can’t do this or that. W...

We are all part of a family and at the same time we are not. We are physically part of a family as we have a mum, dad, brother, sister and spouse but we are emotionally estranged from them. Mothers and fathers have become estranged to their children and the children to their parents. Spouses are apart too and spend little to no time together. Thus the family unit is deprived from one another and know little to nothing about each other. The question that emerges here is, are we a family and what does being a family mean if this is the way we live. A family is a unit that are connected, what happens to one effects the rest and always motivate and care for one another. Today, in our households that is not the case, there is complete neglect of the biggest family rule, spending time together.  We are all secluded in our own bubble with kids doing their thing and parents doing their own individual thing. The advent of technology was only created widened the gap that was created...

When we lose something or something occurs we want to know who is behind it and why they did it. Sometimes we find out who did it or they come forward, but sometimes we do not know. As people we want to find an answer to every problem so we do everything to have an answer. However, when certain things occur we accuse others due to suspicion and our own created analysis. For instance, you lose your wallet at school or at your workplace and no one comes forward to claim they took it because they probably did not take it. We want an answer to why our wallet is gone and we begin to speculate who could have taken and why they did. We think about who has a grudge on us and would do it because they do not like us or someone who has pick-pocketed before and due to this we suspect they are behind it. We keep this thought, spread it among our closest friends and we may even confront them and blame them for doing the deed. This is called suspicion and the individual we accuse becomes our prime w...

Everyone is good at something; you may be good at one thing and one may be good at another thing. When we are not good at a particular thing or did not do well at something and someone else did, we sometimes feel bad and upset. Feeling upset that you didn’t do well or are not good at something is natural as we want to do the best we can. However, the problem is that if our upset feelings lead us to envying and refusing to accept another’s success. Not accepting a person’s success such a friend, sibling, neighbor, colleague or classmate creates envy towards the individual who reached the success. Envying affects us in a number of ways can leave us empty until we mend ourselves away from it. When we are envious we are less focused on our lives and focus on other’s lives, we monitor their every move like if it was our own life. We praise the slightest affliction that hits them and envy their successes, we backbite them, slander them and we use abusive sarcasm towards them. We think t...

Every single day we stand in front of the mirror to look at ourselves. We look at our hair to see if it is neat, our clothes are in shape and that we are fit and have a fine build. We make sure that our appearance is perfect so we are good looking and beautiful. But the question is, what is beautiful, what does it mean to be beautiful and what does a beautiful person look like?, is there a single definition or not and the answer is definitely not. If you ask people to define what a beautiful looks like, everyone you ask will give you differing views to what they think a beautiful person looks like. Throughout history people have had different interpretations to what beautiful is, that is why there are different styles that people had and liked and even today we have different dress and styles across different cultures around the world and the way they want to make themselves look. The way we perceive beautiful may be ugly to those before and may be generations after us, yet we cry...

Marriage is a blessed and fabulous thing, but it can only be this if it contains harmony and love. Marriage problems are not the prettiest things to see or hear about, constant arguments, disputes and grudges. However, marriage problems also play a deadly effect on our well-being in terms of health, daily living and our social interactions, but the can also play a toll on those closest to us who care and want us to be happy and thrive.  Marriage problems on health Our health is a reflection of us and our moods and emotions can either keep our health the way it is or effect it negatively, depending on what emotion we are feeling and expressing. During marriage problems, you are constantly worried, upset anxious or angry and these emotions aren’t the best emotions for your well-being. Your worried for your marriage, your kids, your upset that your once upon a time happy marriage is not what it used to be, your anxious for the future and what is left for your marriage and ...

Last year, I had to send a letter to a university I was applying to. This seems like something ordinary and simple but for me, it was something amazing. Usually we tend to send emails and for people my age, sending a letter would be something close to impossible. It was those moments when you’re shown something ancient your mesmerized. Personally, before then I had never sent a letter as everywhere you want to send something to asks you for your email. When I had finished sending the letter, it was like I had embarked on a new experience because I grew up in an era where everything is technological and sending letters is quite ancient. We prefer sending an email or communicating through other means that use the internet as its quicker and writing a letter to us is just a waste of valuable time, especially if you are someone who grew up in the internet age. Today, we use technology everywhere and it has created an immense change on how we do things, and one of the places it did cre...

When it comes to the question, which is better, home-schooling or public education, people oftenly have differing opinions. Some vote for public schooling while others favour home-schooling and each side brings their own analysis on why one is wrong and the other is better. Most of the time these analyses’ come from parents who observe the difference between the two as some use the effects they see in their kids to prove their point. As a student who has experienced both functions, I will analyse both methods of learning although after comparing studying at home and school, I have found studying at home to be more effective for my learning whether academically or socially. I will take arguments that are usually presented by both sides and present why I am on team home schooling. 1)       Social interactions Many people who believe public schooling is better say that kids who attend school have better social interactions because they are among kids their a...

When people hear child neglect the first thing that comes to their mind is a child who has been abandoned by his parents or a parent who gives no care to their child and their needs. That is true, many children are neglected by their parents, but some in an informal manner. They may be wearing the most expensive clothes brands, have expensive gadgets such as iPad's and iPhone's and get whatever they want but are still neglected. They may not be neglected in terms not having a clean home environment, or having everything their hearts desires, they have all this but they are neglected from very important factors they need in their lives as children and as adults. These factors which include good manners, how to set up goals and how to live in the real world. Kids get everything they want but are not given what they need to carry with themselves for their future and social interactions. Good manners Good manners are essential for how we deal with people in our lives and t...

Many people in the world say they love and like us. Our friends say they like us, our spouses and children say they love us but none of their love compares to the love of our mother. The mother who was pregnant with us for nine months and went through different stages of pains and weaknesses during pregnancy. She held us close since we were born, weaned us and helped us with our first steps and stayed up all night when we cried as babies and when we would get colds and fevers. She hoped that she could take on those pains and spare us from them, she would greet us with a smile and we loved to see that warm smile. She gave up all her dreams, whether it was to work, graduate from university or get employed with her new degree so she could be there for us when we called her. She was patient each time we tried to shut her out and said that she did not understand what we were going through. She worried when we used such words and hoped everything was okay and prayed that we would be okay. S...

A dysfunctional family is the worst thing that can exist. It’s worse than being worse than being diagnosed cancer, losing all your finances etc. This is because broken lives are produced from these families, and lives even if they establish themselves as successful people, they still bear the memories of the dark days they have witnessed. A heart once broken will always carry the memories that broke it and even if they find love from those around them, it is still not enough to glue the shattered pieces together. That is why a dysfunctional family is the worst thing to happen to a child. If they have cancer or any chronic illness and you are there by their side, they are still full. If you are having difficult times and you still love and show care to your child, they are still happy. However, marriage breakdowns and issues effects a child immediately and it can change their characteristics and personality forever and parents don’t seem to realise. When talking about families and m...

F is for friend for many us, when told to guess a word that starts with F, friend is not off the list. We care for our friends and we expect that they do the same for us. We have friends since the day we went to kindergarten, since our first trip to the park and even when we went to camps, sports centre’s or our first jobs. Everywhere we go and we meet and engage with people for some time, they enter our inner circle of friends. We quickly identify the people where share a couple of smiles, laughs and deep conversations with a friend. This shows us that we can have many friends but what is our true friend, that friend who can be the shoulder for you to cry on, who protects your personal secrets and will not spill them out and who respects you like they do themselves and that you do the same in return. How do we know who will be our close friends as friends enter and leave our lives like you enter and leave a door? 1.       A friend has to match your life expe...

Confidence is an essential part when we aim to do anything in our lives. It gives us the incentive to move forward and accomplish our goals. Many of us have confidence issues and find it difficult to accomplish what we really want and sometimes we don’t achieve what we sent out to do. Most of the time is that we fear what people would say if we stuffed up or what would they even say when we tell them we want to do this. First, not everything we want to do is right, sometimes we want to do the wrong thing and people’s thoughts are needed so that they can tell us there concerns and worries of our decisions. We have to acknowledge their thoughts and concerns as only people who care about you would worry about you. So we have to distinguish between advise and criticism to set ourselves in order to attain confidence. 1.       What are you doing Before you can start to have confidence in what you are doing you first have to know what you are doing. There is ...

5)      Look at what is in your life Every single day we ignore what we have in our daily lives, how many of us actually sit down and look at the people and things in our lives and appreciate them. The answer is most of us don’t, we take the loving people in our lives for granted and we take the things we have for granted. We believe that it is our right to have these people and things there and nothing can ever happen to them, well that is not true. Everything and one in our lives are a privilege that can one day disappear, your parents, kids, spouse, loving friends, health, a place to stay, all of these things can disappear and never come back.  So why are we taking so easily and for granted when many have had a loving family but was torn apart through illness, misfortune or even death, or suffer a marriage break up or the split of their friends. If this happens to others and we still have our lives intact, why do we continue to take everything for grante...

4)      You are special As people we tend to copy and imitate others to make ourselves feel and look important. Most of the time what we do to ourselves and our lifestyles are due to what others say about us or what they do. People who were happy with the way they previously looked or what they previously did instantly change to a new lifestyle because some pointed out a criticism at them or they see that the people around them do not do what they do. Thus most of us change who we are not because we want to but because we are directly or indirectly forced to.  When we expose ourselves to those around us or the latest trends we begin to see ourselves and our ways of living our daily lives as inferior and meaningless. The question that lies here is that why are we content with ourselves before we expose ourselves to society and the world around us and why do they make us feel inferior? the answer is that we don’t want to be different. We see being different a...

4)      You are special As people we tend to copy and imitate others to make ourselves feel and look important. Most of the time what we do to ourselves and our lifestyles are due to what others say about us or what they do. People who were happy with the way they previously looked or what they previously did instantly change to a new lifestyle because some pointed out a criticism at them or they see that the people around them do not do what they do. Thus most of us change who we are not because we want to but because we are directly or indirectly forced to.  When we expose ourselves to those around us or the latest trends we begin to see ourselves and our ways of living our daily lives as inferior and meaningless. The question that lies here is that why are we content with ourselves before we expose ourselves to society and the world around us and why do they make us feel inferior? the answer is that we don’t want to be different. We see being different a...