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Love orally or action

A lot of people believe that love is through expression, this means by telling your spouse how you feel about them and what they do. Although there is nothing wrong with that unfortunately most people believe that that is love and nothing has to follow up from there. However, they forget the most important thing about love and that is action, action meaning commitment and hard work. 
Anything you set your mind to requires hard work such as cooking, studying, cleaning and pretty much anything in life and love is among this.
When you love your spouse your aim is to be there for them no matter what and show them that you are committed to making life easier for both of you. 

In today’s modern world that’s not the case, people orally make commitments and state beautiful sayings and phrases and that’s pretty much it. They believe by saying nice words they have made their spouse better and comfortable, but in turn this attitude can cause conflicts because your spouse will get the sense that your all talk but no action, and usually this leads to tensions as they believe you don’t love them because you’re not there for them when they need you the most.so that raises an important question, which is better oral expression or action, the answer is always going to lead to action because people want to see the love you have for them and your commitment to assist them and support them during their difficult moments. This shows your spouse how much you care and what they mean to you. 

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When love and action are combined it becomes a beautiful thing to watch
This simple scenario although not related to are topic shows the importance of letting action following your sweet words:
A boy came up to his mother and said, “Mum I love you”, his mother replied “oh thank you but can you help me with the dishes”. The boy replied and no and said that he brought he chocolates, his mother replied, “oh but you know I can’t eat them because I have diabetes”. The Boy then said, “that’s okay I’ll eat them for you”. The following day the boy said the same phrase ‘mum I love you’ and his mother stated that that was nice of him but asked if he could go and mow the lawn. The replied by saying no but said he brought his mother flowers, his mother replied ‘oh but you do know I have asthma” and the boy replied ‘That’s okay I’ll smell them for you”.
The boy in this story was very inconsiderate of his mother and her condition and thought by just stating that he loved her he had proven his love for her but forgot that she wanted him to help her more and be there for her when she needed him. The same scenario can be attached to the spouses, if your inconsiderate of each other then love will not form and conflicts will take place.

The reason is when you are sick you expect your spouse to fill in your gap and be there to do the hard work, can take care of the kids or you doing the same for him when he is in a similar situation. If both of you do not do this for each other then your relationship is void, so that is why it is better to show each other the compassion for each other than to declare it and abandon each other. After all we are all familiar with the saying, ‘Action speak louder than words’, so why not show how much you care and make the commitments you both promised you would show each other along with the sweet words you say. Here, you are complete because love is not complete without commitment and it is also not complete without saying nice things, it’s like trying to walk without both legs. So make a habit to include words and actions in your marriage to make things work out.                

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