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Spending time together as a Husband and wife

If the word family comes to your mind the first thing that you would define it is a household which love each other and can’t have enough of each other, in clearer terms spend quality time together. Spending time together as a family and husband and wife has many benefits:
1.      You learn a lot about each other
The more people spend close time together the more people tend to know more about each other. If you place this in any scenario you will see that that is true, the reason for this is that the longer you see each other the more you open up to each other. At first people become shy, concealing and protective of themselves, but the longer they see each other the more trust and friendship forms as this person becomes part of your everyday life and you feel like you know them inside out. This is the same for the husband and wife if they spend quality time together, they know each other’s secrets, weaknesses, hobbies, favourite things etc. They develop skills that helps them identify each other, to know when one has had a bad day, or is upset about something, the more time spent and you will even tell by their facial expressions even if they were to deny that they had a bad day because you have spent so much time with each other to define each other inside out.  
2.      Love and harmony forms
The more time you spend seeing each other the more you learn each other’s qualities, no one is perfect and possess perfect qualities but the more time you spend with each other you will learn about hidden qualities that you never knew about each other. Maybe at times you may consider each other as uncaring or shows a lack of commitment but when you know each other deep down you know that maybe they are having a moment or distracted by something they can’t control. That is why these quality spent times are important, they create love and harmony between you and make it easy for you to understand each other’s situations. They help you to develop an open bond of care and respect for each other as you learn the hidden thoughts and feelings of each other which evolves into consideration for each other’s attitudes.  
The closure you spend teaches you the true characteristics of each other so when such incidents or feelings emerge, you can easily tell the difference between being neglected by your spouse or if something is preoccupying their mind.
3.      That’s why you got married
When you got married, both your aims were to spend the rest of your life with each other. Your aims were to help each other at times of distress and worry and to celebrate at times of happiness and success, thus why you called each other the other half of yourself. To do this there has to be considerations of how you both live your daily lives in order to spend time together and with your children also. The idea of getting married is going with someone who will captivate you and make you miss them and fill you with the need to see each other and share your days with happiness. You both did not get married to become total strangers to each other and only have children and live together as anonymous souls in the same house, if you live like this then that is not marriage because that is not why people get married. Marriage lasts when both of you understand each other and this only forms through spending time and giving each other time express their feelings and ideas.

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Spending time is essential for a happy and understandable marriage


The reason why spending quality time is important is because if such time is not spent, distance starts to form between you and you begin to develop mixed feelings about your relationship and the emptiness. At first you may feel lonely, confused, worried about the situation of your relationship and eventually you become used to the estrangement. Then what occurs is that the deep estrangement plays a toll on when you do begin to try to spend time with each other, you don’t what you both like, or what to say to each other and seeing yourselves together becomes something weird. Eventually sometimes you may both become incompatible with each other and prefer the estranged marriage or separate. That is why it is necessary to develop a time where you both can communicate and share time with each other so you can reap the beauties of your marriage and live a longer marriage.  

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