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Loving yourself

As humans we desire love, affection and care to raise are self-esteem and self-worth. This love and affection helps us to function properly as we need love and care in our daily lives, however the most important love that we need is self-love. As people loving yourself is very essential but what does it mean to love yourself? loving yourself means that you have self-confidence, self -esteem, self-motivation etc. it means that you are always looking to achieve the best you can do and keep yourself away from things that can hurt your self-growth and development. Thus we will break down the self-needed habits that will help us to attain self-love.
1.     Understanding who are you
As people we can identify who other people are, what they are like and their habits but the question is can we self-identify ourselves. Many of us when asked the question, What type of person are you? give vague descriptions of ourselves which most of the time are not true. Understanding yourself and having self-acceptance is a major part of loving yourself, after all if you don’t possess these qualities then what self is there to love in the first place.
2.     Self-confidence and esteem
When you understand who you truly are and type of person you are deep down, you begin to feel confident about who you are and esteem begins to build within you. Confidence and self-esteem are very important factors that allow an individual to discover true love for themselves because they develop self-motivation to live up to their true potential. They know what they want to achieve and reach because of the self-understanding they have reached and know what they need to reach their self-worth and self-love.

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when you find self-motivation and esteem your life will begin to blossom for the better
3.     Do not concern yourself about others
When a person looks at others and is interested about the rumours and gossips of individuals around them is due to the lack of self-appreciation. If an individual wants to attain self-respect and love, they must be content with what they have in their lives. Possessing self-worth means that you are content with yourself as an individual, your habits, your life and everything in it. You know that you are worth something and does not drag themselves on the floor thinking that they are inferior to others. Loving yourself helps you ignore the conditions of theirs even if they have things you do not because you are always content and appreciative of your successes and gains even if they are not to the level of those around you.
4.     You are not worthless
Just because you do not possess certain traits or things does not mean you are a nobody. Every human has their own unique characters and traits that define them as who they are. When you develop self-love and respect you aim to use the qualities you have to better present yourself, not change and become something you’re not. Always know that each human is different, no two people were born alike, embrace your different and manifest it to find your self-worth.
5.     Share these with others

When you find self-love and value, share it those around you. Share your experiences of how you reached where you are and what it means to have self-love and respect. This may sound selfish as self-love, self-worth etc. contain the word self. However, it is not what it seems to sound like, selfish and self-centred people do not know who they really are, all they do is envy others and look for courage by hiding their insecurities. But when you have self-respect you know what type of person you are, what are your weaknesses and strengths and how to care and share these qualities with the world around you. So the idea is to share your experiences to help others find their inner self and discover what it means to be the real person you are.


Finding and discovering who we really are allows us to develop self-love and respect and this is key because if you are happy with who you are, then you will not depend on others compliments and statements to make you whole. You know who you are and you know what limitations you have and how to tackle them. Yes, constructive criticism is important as others such as the loving people around may see things we don’t but it depends on who is giving the criticism and what are they saying that matters. Only through this may we find our self-respect and dignity. 

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