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Sacrifice/ commitment
When people talk about marriage they often see it as two people who love each other and as long as there is love then their marriage is safe and secure. Although that is true however love goes in many forms and love alone cannot solve and keep a marriage intact.  Among the forms of love required for a solid marriage are sacrifice and commitment. These are constantly mentioned but today we will examine what it really means to sacrifice for someone and what it means to be committed to something.
Sacrifice
In simple terms sacrifice means to give something you desire the most up for someone or to do something you would never do for the sake of a particular person because you love that person very much and they mean a lot to you. This idea must be present in order to reach the highest fruits of a successful marriage. Sacrificing for your spouse gets rid of having a selfish ego because you will do anything for your spouse because they mean a lot to you and you do not care about the negative things people say because as long as your spouse is happy, that makes you happy. A girl who was talking about how happy the marriage of her parents was stated that her parents had such a happy marriage that one day when they all went outside, her mother passed wind and it was heard. Her father admitted to doing it so the people on the bus they were travelling on would not mock her or laugh. That is true sacrifice, he did not care if people laughed at him as long as the honour of his wife was protected and that she did not feel embarrassed was sufficient for him as happiness.
Sacrifice’s importance in a marriage can never be limited, it is that feeling that shows true love as only do we sacrifice for the people we love. It shows your spouse that you care for them and you are willing to give up your favourite hobbies or planned schedules when they need you or if you want to show them how much you are committed to your marriage. This is referred to as:
Commitment
When your committed to something you aim for it to work, happen and exist because you are putting your soul and heart into it. Such is a marriage, a marriage cannot function if there isn’t a 100% commitment in it, it falls apart. Both spouses have to place a commitment for a successful marriage as marriage is not all words and flashing of 10 second kindnesses. When you say you care you have to be committed and prove what you say. Otherwise, your love is meaningless as you talk but have no actions to follow and in a marriage, sweet talk with no action can cause a lot of tensions.

The aim here is not to only say love is needed for a successful marriage but all the pieces of emotions and power you have must be to be put forward in order for a solid marriage as love alone cannot build a happy family.

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