The World we live in

Failure is often seen as the end point. It is seen as the point of no return where all things end. However, it is the complete opposite. Failure is the beginning as you need to fail to succeed. This is because no one is immediately able to do something they have never tried before. Yes, some people might find things easier than others at first, but that does not mean that they too are immune from failing. All people experience failure before success and this is because the brain is not able to do something new easily. It takes time for the brain to master and after repetitive tries it finally masters it. This is why if you do not try for a large period of time on something you want master, it will be next to impossible to master. If this is the case, we must be able to understand that failure is a normal process in life if it requires our brain to experience what we are trying several times to we are able to grasp it. One reason is because of patience. To get better at something ...

Friends... From the last post on this topic, this is the word I ended with. Friends are what teenagers hold dear. They are the people teens want to prove themselves to. Teenagers are in the age where emotions run faster than their though process. This means they base their judgements on how they feel, not what they think and this can be a bad thing. Friends are not bad and having a good set of friends can even make you be a better person but the problem is when they are not. This proposes a lot of problems as a crossroad emerges, do you stay with this group or abandon them?? For teens this is a challenge, if your aim is to prove yourself and make a statement, jumping ship and walking out is not an option and most of the time this becomes problematic. If someone or a group people expect you to constantly prove yourself and alter yourself to fit their standards then that is not a friends. The moment they will walk out of your life will come, sooner or later. Although you might tell a t...

Perfectionism is not the best trait to have as a person. Doing something in the right way makes us feel like we know what we are doing and that we hate not know how to do things. Trying to do something in the best manner possible is not a crime, but dying for it to go perfect is a problem. Perfectionism makes an individual happy when they do things perfect and upset if they do not. It is not about doing you best or getting it right, it is about doing what you are doing to the maximum level of perfect. The implications with this is that one cannot do something perfectly, then they are upset and feel like they are a complete failure. It also creates fear of trying something new as they become concerned of not being able to do what needs to be tried right. This can lead an individual to fall behind as their mindset becomes, I either I am good at it or I will not try it. Failure is a natural process in our lives. Since we were born we always failed as we learnt more and more abou...

We have people in our life that stand by us through thick and thin, through the hardest times of our lives. These people take pride in being our shoulder to cry on when we need a place to cry, they take pride in our success and congratulate us for our efforts. However, a lot of the time we abandon these people, we chase after others who do not need our time and try to please them even though it does not not make them any better to us. As people we should acknowledge those who acknowledge us rather than chase the approval those who do not need our time. We should applaud them for standing by our side through thick and thin, being there for us when we needed them most and being there just to give a kind word. We should applaud those who give us the sincerest adivce to keep us on the righ track and not those who aim to see you fail over and over again. We should give our time to those whom our success makes them happy and we are happy with theirs and not those who feel a bitter tast...

Kids and chores seem to be two words that do not make a match, especially in the world of a kid. Chores are oftenly done by parents as its usually a war to get kids to participate or we sometimes feel that they will do it wrong and that they take their time. Chores is a great way for kids to participate and develop skills that will help them in their future. Here is a number of ways chores can help kids: -  Helps them life skills Chores helps kids experience what the world of work has in store for them. In the working world or in schools and universities work will be assigned to complete tasks and you are expected complete them on time and in the manner you are expected to complete it in. By doing chores kids will develop this ability as they will learn to adapt to the time you expect them to finish and the manner in which you want the chores to be completed . Through this they will learn time management and everything needs to be done at a set time and this will be nee...

Sometimes as people we are the ones who burden ourselves in ways that are not necessary and one of the biggest ways we do is by aiming to be what we are not. We love to be what we are not, trying to be a person that is not us by wearing the mask of another. We do not develop our sense of self but try to live the life of another and this leads us to insecurities and self-doubt. The reason for this is that we want to live the life of another by burying the real us deep inside and each time the real us stares at us, we continue to lock it up by looking for more things and others techniques on how they live.   This leads us to something called overconsumption and begin to hurt ourselves as we always want what we do not have but are never thankful for what we already have. We may be healthy, fit, have the necessities in our lives but we continue to see our lives empty because we are focused on what’s missing, not what’s already there. This leads to overconsumption as w...

As people, we are always concerned with our outward appearence and being successful with high intelligence and wealth. Not many of us concern ourselves with our attitude and the way we behave, we rarely concern ourselves with the way we speak, act and behave to those we know and do not. Thus we have become a people with pretty bodies, great paperwork and resumes and a stable income with bad attitudes. We have no respect for no one and have become individualists who only care about themselves and only help others if it is in our own benefits and interests. We never help others if we are not going to get anything out of it and this is not good because we do not treat people the way we want to be treated. We love to get help, to be treated with respect and honour, so why cant we do the same. When we help others we are doing oueselves a favour, we are softening our hearts and looking at life from others perspectives. We become thankful when we see someone in a worse condition and real...

Trying new thing and having new hobbies is very important. Trying new things allows us to learn new skills and talents that we have never known we had.  We never know what we are good at until we try something new. New hobbies also gives us the confidence to not hold ourselves back but to immediatly find ourselves confortable in new situations. When we learn to ride a bike or swim or play a particular game, we never know we never know whether we are good at it or not. But we oftenly have pre-thought ideas of how bad we are at it or how we are going to be embarrased when we do a mistake. Mistakes are needed to reach perfection, you can't be good at something without failing and practicng over and over again. When you start to learn to walk, you fall over countles amount of times but we keep getting up until we learn to walk. The same goes for writing, our handwriting starts of shaky but through practice we get it right. Trying something new as long as it is a good hobby and s...

As people, we love to surround ourselves with people. It makes us feel wanted and special but is it worth it to surround ourselves with everybody we meet. There is nothing wrong with surrounding ourselves with people but its got to be people worth spending time with. Not everybody is worth our time, some people don’t deserve to be given an extra minute while some people are worth the time. Here are some people who are worth our time and those that are not: 1. Respectable people Respectable people do not necessarily mean people of wealth and status, but it can also be people with great characters and attitudes. Someone who respects those around them and always has a positive onlook to life is respectable and worth the time. They do their best to make the most of life, even if it looks like its not in their favour and they always have something positive to say. Such people always show that there is more to life than whats obvious and have a good character to to it up . 2. People wh...

Placing your your self in high regard is very important. Thinking of yourself in high regard boosts your self-confidence and faith in yourself as an individual. It makes you feel proud of your self and that you have the ability and capacity to keep on moving forward. Our lives is affected by our mental state, if our mental state has doubts of our self-worth and who we are as individuals then we shield ourselves from progression and the motivation to present the real us.  Having high self-regard does not mean that you are arrogant and proud because arrogance and pride are usually used to cloak lack of confidence and hidden weaknesses. Placing yourself in high self-regard means that you do not wait for people to compliment you after completing or achieving something, rather you know that the person that needs to take pride in their achievement and hardwork is you. It means that if someone questions yourself credibility and worth you that it is not them who decide if you are a fa...

As people we love to talk with those around us and have a good chat. We like to engage in exciting conversations and have a good laugh and present our views and opinions. However, at times we let our tongues slip and slide and they utter things that they should not. Our tongues utter things that can destroy a person's self-esteem, confidence or create conflicts between others and this is why it is important for us to guard our tongues. Guarding our tongues is a compulsory act as our tongues, although having the ability to make other's feel good about themselves and can motivate them, it also can cause damages that can never be erased. When we are struck with a painful blow, it hurts and aches but the pain eventually subsides and down the track we will probably forget that we ever got hurt. However, when say things that can hurt an individual we leave them with a permanent scar, a scar no matter how much they try to forget that will remain, even if they have forgiven you. Th...

Giving good advice is one of the best things we can do for the people around us. Giving good advice helps improve other's situations and gives them tips on how to do things in an easier manner. Giving good advice is very helpful but for many of us we feel that we may be interfering in someone else's business or 'dictating' them on what to do. Advice giving is not like that but it is a tool that helps us improve someone else's circumstance. People come to each other seeking advice or a situation is calling on someone to make the call and give advice. This means that we always have to keep in mind that are aim is to improve the situation of another and that we should be able to give them advice, whether they ask for it or not . Sometimes we may question ourselves and think what happens if the person does not take the advice or becomes hostile but we should not let such ideas cloud our judgement. Our job is to give the advice and it is up to the individual if ...

Being optimistic is very key in our lives it gives us the strength and will power to move forward. Optimism is very important in our daily lives as it helps us overcome the challenges in our daily lives. Challenges whether small or large are bound to occur in our lives and we need to have the spirit and will power if we intend to move forward and make the most out of our lives. As humans we need a positive attitude to endure the challenges that we face and negative emotions only fuel the hard challenges that we are facing and make it difficult for us to overcome and tame the challenge. Negative emotions and a lack optimism makes the slightest hardship or challenge unbearable and makes us to question why are we in such a position and believe it is destroying our lives.  However, positive and optimism make our life challenges bearable and even enjoyable. When we realise that no challenge is complicated we enjoy knowing that we have the strength and confidence to keep on...

Being helpful and helping those around us is something we are taught since we were small. We were taught to help out by picking up our toys, taking out the garbage, cleaning our rooms and so forth so we can be helpful to others lighten and lessen their load. Helping eventually becomes part of our daily life and we see that we help without even knowing. Whether we give someone a pen when they ask, holding the door or giving the right of way we always help others in some way whether big or small. Being helpful is very important because it shows people we care about them and have complete respect for them. When we offer our service and assistance to someone we acknowledge that we care about them want to help out of their difficult situation and make things easier for them.  Islam rewards acts of kindness whether they be small or large, the prophet (s.a.w) said that removing something harmful from the road or smiling and giving a cheerful face to the people around us it is a c...

As humans we often define life by the good times we have experienced and our day ending up the way we plan. Life is complex and sometimes it does not end up the way we plan and unexpected things always happen. Everyone has experienced a moment in their lives where a planned day, event or moment takes a completely differently turn from what was originally planned. This sometimes leads to sadness, feeling heartbroken and thinking that your life has come to a complete stand-still depending on what the unexpected thing that is effecting you is unexpected things or events are part of our lives and it is vital that we recognise this to be able to move forward. Since life changes that we do not plan on occur everyday in our lives, one of the key things that can make this an enjoyable unexpected experience is by keeping a smile.  Keeping a smile not only helps you but those around you and sends a positive picture to the world around us. It allows one to be able to attain a calm heart ...

As people, we want the best things in life. We strive to have them and reach them as much as we can as they are what we want. But people around us also have similar desires and goals and also want to achieve them. The question is that do we accept the same for those around us that we call close or not. It is an inner desire that we have to be the best and aim towards over achieving those around us. However, that should not be a means for us not to acknowledge others successes and congratulate them for their successes and achievements. Just we love to be credited for our efforts and hard-work, others do to and if we acknowledge this then we would develop envy to people we hold so dear Orto people we do not even know. Also think of others as you do yourself, if someone asks for a lending hand or for a piece of advice, the best thing you could do is give it. As people we love to always be on the receiving end but not on the giving end and this can be a problem because if we all ...

In today’s modern world, technology has become the source of entertainment and excitement for kids. Its what kids go to after finishing their homework or chores or when they are simply just bored. Kids enjoy the endless unlimited boundaries of fun and joy they can access on technology that never makes them bored. This is whether they are chatting to friends, playing games or watching something really interesting, technology gives it all without having to wait. Once upon a time kids would anticipate the TV schedule to make sure they do not miss their favourite cartoon or episode of a show, but today it is uploaded and can be easily accessed. Once kids would have to go outside to see and hear from friends but today that is no longer the norm for anyone as technology gives easy communication. The endless boundaries of technology is never ending as new forms of upgrades and updates always occur, this making technology beloved by all age groups, especially kids.  For parents, conce...

The arrival of holidays are welcomed very dearly by everyone. Everyone looks forward to the rest ad relaxation that comes with the holidays, but when kids are present that may not be the case. For many parents the holidays are spent entertaining the kids and making sure that they have a good time, this happening at the cost of sacrificing one’s personal holiday. Going out and having fun is essential for all of us but the key is that it has to bring us all together. Spending time with your kids is the most important part of the holidays, holidays were made to allow rest from one’s busy lifestyle and allow for rest with family to occur. However, the spirit of spending holidays as a family has turned into making sure that the kids are fully entertained and satisfied with their holidays. Making this happen means that families spend a lot of money during holiday periods going outside to fine dining and ares of fun entertainment. Because of this many families do not spend quality time...

As humans we often define life by the good times we have experienced and our day ending up the way we plan. Life is complex and sometimes it does not end up the way we plan and unexpected things always happen.  Everyone has experienced a moment in their lives where a planned day, event or moment takes a completely differently turn from what was originally planned. This sometimes leads to sadness, feeling heartbroken and thinking that your life has come to a complete stand-still depending on what the unexpected thing that is effecting you is Unexpected things or events are part of our lives and it is vital that we recognise this to be able to move forward.  Since life changes that we do not plan on occur everyday in our lives, one of the key things that can make this an enjoyable unexpected experience is by keeping a smile. Keeping a smile not only helps you but those around you and sends a positive picture to the world around us.  It allows one to be able to att...

As people we have many different gifts, talents and skills that we call our own and do very well. We take pride in our skills as we know how to do them well and that they make us feel special.  However, we also have the tendency to feel that every good skill and thing should be ours, this meaning that sometimes we do not respect another's talent or congratulate them for it. If someone gets something or has a particular talent that we do not have, we should be happy for that person and congratulate them on their success and wish them well. This is because we would love to be congratulated when we too reach a milestone in our lives.  Keeping in mind that we all have different skills and talents that are unique to us is important, it helps us understand that we are just human, we have limitations as we are not good at everything and that we have our own unique trademark. As people we are not perfect, this meaning that we do not know everything or how to do everything. Ou...